tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37687549.post5379006322412181475..comments2023-05-29T06:17:59.811-06:00Comments on The Presleys: This Got Me Thinking...Meghannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16538754119426721386noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37687549.post-51154472432056344612011-01-20T14:15:39.555-06:002011-01-20T14:15:39.555-06:00I saw this article and thought it sounded more lik...I saw this article and thought it sounded more like child abuse than parenting. How can you possibly raise happy, productive children like that? Surely they can practice and memorize, but if your only motivation is a fear of failure or disappointing others, how can you work towards contentment and peace?<br /><br />I know i struggle with my own sense of being "good enough" and I only have my own voice in my head telling me I'm not where I should be in life. I can only imagine how much more difficult it would be if I had my mothers voice deriding me instead of supporting me when I felt down.<br /><br />I think raising children who can love and empathize is more important than children who can do the best on a math test.<br /><br />*also, my security word to type was "famptor" which sounded like some sort of glam-rock dinosaur and made me smile.Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07882257217080064023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37687549.post-72053648179444948132011-01-20T12:23:12.266-06:002011-01-20T12:23:12.266-06:00I skimmed that article last week, thinking surely ...I skimmed that article last week, thinking surely this mom was exagerating to make her point. Wouldn't you hate to be her daughter? No joy in life. No love simply because you are you. Instead, you are what you produce.<br /><br />But if you tone down her message, I think we can all relate with wanting our kids to do their best. It's just a matter of how hard you push them. And for what reasons you are pushing/encouraging them. <br /><br />I think a huge downside to capitalism/our culture is that we often reduce life to "you are what you produce." This is at odds with Christianity, in that our identity is found in Christ and what He has done for us, not in what WE do.<br /><br />Even with a 1-year-old, I sometimes find myself trying to make Bop "produce." To make her learn her ABCs, to count, know her colors, and forget about just playing and enjoying her. I'm sure as she gets older and she really is expected to "produce" more (pass grades, get into college, get a job), it will be hard to teach her that her identity isn't in those things, but in Christ. But I certainly want her to know that we love her simply because she is who she is. No strings attached.<br /><br />So much to learn when you're a mama! :)EMUhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08974732869702942852noreply@blogger.com